If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It with Dan Kumar

I'm so happy to have Dan, my psychic back on the show today! In this episode Dan & I discuss dreams - both the dreams we have when we're sleeping, and the dreams we have about our goals and aspirations. Dan is my psychic who changed my path in 2019. Tune into their previous episode in which we tell the story of how I and Dan connected and how he changed my life.

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Intro

Welcome to the "Sober Yoga Girl" podcast with Alex McRobs, international yoga teacher and sober coach. I broke up with booze for good in 2019.And now I'm here to help others do the same. You're not alone and a sober life can be fun and fulfilling. Let me show you how.

Alex

All right. Hello, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of "Sober Yoga Girl". I am super excited to have Dan back with me on the show today. So Dan was on the show a few months ago, got really good feedback about that episode. Dan is my psychic. If you have not listened to that episode yet, I recommend that you go back and give it a listen so you can hear the story of Dan's journey and my journey and how we met and kind of how he changed my life. But I'm super happy to have him back on the show today, and we're going to be talking to you a little bit about our dreams, so welcome Dan.

Dan

Well, hello, everybody. And it's great to be back on the podcast with you, Alex. And I'm looking forward to speaking about dreams today. I think that Alex and I were speaking about a few days ago and we were actually contemplating on getting a retreat then. And while we were speaking about that, we spoke about doing a podcast. And while I was sitting there and talking to her, she's like, okay, what should the topic be? And in the room that I sleep or the bedroom, there's this quote, a very famous quote, and I'm going to read it out to you guys because I think that it factors in with what we're going to talk about today. "If you can dream it, you can do it". So this is a very famous quote by Walt Disney. And when I'm speaking to Alex, not to tell her that I have the quote in front of me. But I said, you know what? Let's just do dream it. Let's talk about dreams. Let's talk about how we are connecting to our dreams or what dreams were having or what dreams we desire. So yeah, I think today we're going to talk about dreams, and I think it's going to be a very insightful cast, podcast today.

Alex

Love it. And I love that you know, I know that was a Walt Disney quote. "If you can dream it, you can do it". I definitely heard it before, but I didn't realize that that was him originally.

Dan

Well, It's a-- I have quite a few Disney quotes around me usually. I find them quite inspiring, and I find them quite simplistic in their manifestation and the way they affirm things. And I like that. I like the simplicity. I think if you listen to any of our podcast line and Alex's podcasts, you'd get that. I'm quite simple and like bringing things down to the bare minimum and making it easy for everybody to do. So again, dreams. I think that when it comes to dreams, there's two types of dreams right. There's the dream that when we're sleeping, we dream of. And then there's the dream of attaining something or something that we would want in the future. They're both very different. But let's speak about the dreams that we have. Usually the dreams that we have are significant to where our state of mind is in the current, where we are in the now. So sometimes we dream about certain things, certain aspects of life we could be dreaming about. You know we could be having a great time in our dream. We could be going on an amusement park and roller coaster. But when we could also have dreams of us falling, we could also have dreams of us dying. We could have dreams of us you know, feeling claustrophobic. We can have many dreams, you could have dreams of other people. And we could be the Boyer just looking at what other people are doing. And all of this insight that comes to us through our dreams, are basically messages of how things are happening right now within us internally. So sometimes, I know a lot of people, like analyzing their dreams and overthinking, but it's actually quite simplistic. I mean, even if you're thinking about-- if you have a dream that you're falling or you have a dream that doesn't seem like a pleasant dream, I don't think you should go to what the actual things that happened in the dream. I don't think that's the point. I think the point is the overwhelming feeling that you had. So usually if we're going through difficulty, we feel fear or feel anxiety or we feel upset. Maybe there is a situation in our current state that is making us feel that way, or there could be something that's coming up that will make us feel that way. So our dreams are basically, I guess window predictions. I guess predictions of you know, what we need to look out for or what we're going to be feeling and then how we can change that perspective. So if we are going through a difficult time or something overwhelming or fearful, that we have the capability of saying, hey, okay. I know something's coming up, but I'm not going to make it agitate me when it happens or if I'm going through something right now. Maybe I am-- I mean, if we're talking about right now, maybe COVID could be the thing that I'm scared about getting COVID, or maybe have a dream that I had COVID. I mean, just to you something really basic. Then I take the precautions right now so that I do not end up getting to that state. But then again, the idea of COVID could also not be COVID exactly. It could be the idea that I have a fear of-- it's like when you're a hypochondriac. So it's almost that I have a fear of getting something. So it could be always-- it doesn't have to be COVID. It could be a colds. Could be I have a fear of not getting a job. I have a-- so the thing of not getting, is the thing that we need to work on. Does this make sense, or is it confusing right now?

Alex

Yeah. So it's like--

Dan

So the fear-- go ahead.

Alex

I was going to say so it's like the symbolism of what you're dreaming of could not be exactly what you're dreaming, but it can represent something else. And the trick is reflecting on it and interpreting it to understand.

Dan

Well, it's reflecting the feeling. It's not reflecting the situation. If that makes sense. Does that make sense?

Alex

Yup.

Dan

So that feeling, the feeling, that feeling is something that we could change. We could change it through meditation, through activities, through talking to ourselves. We can change that feeling when we wake up through that. And it's very overwhelming for a lot of people because they keep on hanging the same recurring dream over and over again.

Alex

Yeah.

Dan

I remember at some point, I use me as an example. I used to have this dream where I just kept on falling and I kept on feeling like I'm falling and falling and falling and falling. And I keep-- whenever I go to bed, I come back to that dream where I was falling. So now, when I came back to reality and I was thinking about it, I was like, okay, how did I feel during this? I was frightened, was letting go, and I just let myself fall. Or was I trying to grapple onto things. And the thing is, while I was falling, I was trying to grapple onto things. I was trying to hold on to things. That made me realize, because at that time, also, I was in a situation where from my personal life, I was trying to keep relationships the same way and trying to hold on to relationships. And I realized that I needed to let go. I needed to allow the relationships to become what they need to be organically without me manipulating it to become something. If that makes sense. So, once I came to that understanding, I didn't have that falling dream again. I mean, I've had many other dreams after that, but that dream hasn't really arise again. But I feel like it always associate with me, associate with me grappling to things, holding on to things. So the idea of letting go and free falling was something that I had to kind of-- in my conscious state, start believing in and thinking of, does that make sense?

Alex

Yeah. It's really interesting because I'm thinking about a dream that I had in the past that is always stuck with me. So it was really scary. When I was with a partner and I dreamed that we had a baby, that the baby was a monkey. It was so scary. And it's always stuck with me is like one of those nightmares. And it's really interesting that you say that because at the time, it was like, really coming towards the end of the relationship and like me getting encouraged to leave. And what the dream was about was really just fear about--it wasn't fear. It was like this feeling that I needed to escape, you know this feeling that it was not going in a positive direction. And so that's really interesting that you talk about the feeling and not the scenario itself. Because obviously that's scenario--

Dan

So I mean, if I even look at the scenario that you went through and that you where pregnant, gave birth to a monkey. So the feeling that you would have got there are two. One would have been shocked and the other one would have been fear. That how did I give birth to a monkey? The other thing, the monkey, if we have to symbolize that could have just been symbolizing the emotion of that relationship that you were having, because that relationship wasn't a true relationship that was benefiting you in any emotional, loving, joyful way, and that it was something that was erratic, because if we also look at the symbolism of a monkey, a monkey is somebody who's out about in the jungle, roaming around. They're never study. They're never in one space. They're always going all over the place. So that could also represent that relationship, that the relationship wasn't going anywhere, just all over the place. Does that make sense? So that's a different interpretation. But that's also insight on that relationship that you had and the feelings you had in that relationship that were weren't stable. They weren't steady. They were not going anywhere. It was just going all over the place. So now I put it into the simplistic words for you, Alex, but you also got out of that relationship eventually, right?

Alex

Yeah.

Dan

So those are the dreams that we have. Can we change the type of dreams that we have? Can we can we alter the dreams we have? Not necessarily. But what we could do is just have a healthier regime before going to bed and maybe making a little bit more ritualistic, maybe having a cup of warm water or tea or also checking on when we first-- when we last eat, because sometimes with the digestion process that also affects the way are mentally how we're thinking when we're going to bed, so we may be overwhelmed with that hold. We won't be in a clean state. So usually they do say, you know, a few hours before sleeping. Do not eat, right? Just because you-- I guess for two reasons. One is because your body is functioning on digestion and it's harder to fall asleep then. And the other thing is that also maybe you will react mentally to what the digestion doing with whatever food you're eating. Be it-- it could be anything you've just eaten. So usually I just tell people before going to bed and try not to watch anything on your TV, laptop, ipad, computer, anything digital. I usually tell people about a couple of hours before going to bed, try to stay away from anything of that nature and maybe just read a book or listen to some music, or maybe do a nightly meditation where you could just be affirming something to yourself or chanting something to yourself to fall asleep. And then you probably get sounder sleep. And probably your dreams will be a little bit more vivid for you. And some people don't get dreams at all. Some people just sleep and they wake up and that's it, which is fine. I mean, sometimes that is the best thing. Where you just sleep and you don't really have a dream and you wake up. Does it make sense?

Alex

Yeah.

Dan

Alright. So the other aspect of dreams is that we dream of things that we would like or desire. So I want to come to that in the sense that are those dreams that we have actual dreams that we actually internally want from the soul, or are they dreams that are implemented or seeded in us through society and what we believe we think we need because some people may dream that they won the lottery. Some people may want a big house. Some people may want a husband. Some people may want a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner. Some might want a boat, a car, whatever. These dreams of materialism, or even if you just dream about a dream to be happy or dream to be successful, a dream to be-- any of these dreams. I think all of these dreams are quite possible to happen, even the materialistic one. But are they actually the true dream that we want? When we're dreaming for a future, we're dreaming about something we want. Is that coming from a place of-- is it coming from our soul or is it coming from our conscious mind? Because our conscious mind, sometimes thinks that we deserve this or we desire this. But our soul may not want that. Our soul may just want to feel peace or happiness. I always come back that the soul or your subconscious mind always wants the most simplistic things emotionally, be it happiness, joy, love, comfort. Whereas our conscious mind will always want something that's a little bit more materialistic or maybe a little bit more, you know, grandiose that-- I mean, at some level it is all attainable. But what we're doing, where we're trying to manifest a dream or when a dream comes to us or when we have dreams of the future, we have to make it very simplified for our self again and just come back to an emotion. Mind you, me being the person I am. I can tell you that I did dream and I think I spoke about this month, but I had a dream about going to London and when I'm in London, that everything was taken care of. And that was a dream I had maybe five years ago and two years after me thinking about that and I never thought about it again. Two years later, I actually got a trip to London. I had sessions and everything was taken care of for me. And that was also because I left my dream to develop. I didn't keep on constantly going back to it. I didn't keep on-- and that was kind of like-- that was a very materialistic dream that I had. That I would go to London for the first time and everything would be taken care of. You can say that it was a manifestation or you could say that it's a pure intention that I put out there and I developed it. But I don't think I developed it because I only thought about it once and I let it be. And everything happened. The same thing happened to me a couple of years ago, right before COVID started, with Italy. I never went to Italy, and I always said that I would go to Italy with the person I'm in love with. So that was my intention. That I would go to Italy with the person I'm in love with. And this is years ago because I never went to Italy or Paris or Spain. And I was like, okay, wonderful. Again. I got an opportunity to go to Italy where everything was taken care of, and it was none. And I ended up going there. And it was my first solo trip. And guess what? I actually did go with the person that I loved. I went with myself, and I learned to eat at a restaurant by myself, to sit on steps and have a pizza by myself, to go to the streets, the little streets and shop by myself and just explore a city by myself. But it gave me so much strength. And I was like, wow, I need to do this, maybe every other year for myself, for my birthday, because it empowered me. And it made me feel so much better about myself. And I was like, I ended up loving the city. But I ended up coming back, loving myself even more and understanding myself even more. And feeling like-- I wasn't feeling like a loner because even when I went to the restaurant, so it was a weird phenomenon because I usually go up to restaurants, and I always eat with somebody like, I always call a friend or family member. But in Milan, I sat at this restaurant. A friend recommended it to me, went to this restaurant, and I was sitting there by myself. And I was looking at this group of gorgeous looking people, eating and having a jolly time. And I was like, wow, I'm missing out. But then I turned to my left and there's this extremely good looking man sitting there. Enjoying his meal by himself. And then I look to the other side. There's this beautiful, gorgeous woman sitting next to me, and she's also eating, and she's just eating her food and just looking at everybody. And I was like, wow, okay. And all the wait staff was so attentive. The maître d' was so attentive to all of us, the three of us that were there, by our self. And I think it was one of the best dinners I've ever had. And it's been so memorable that I think about it. And it makes me feel so happy about it. But this was a dream. I don't know-- I always had that dream that I wanted to go to Milan, with the person I love the most. And I realized that, wow. Good. Good on you that you love yourself that much. So this is another dream that came true and you could see that it was a manifestation. But I thought about it once. I didn't think about it more than once and allowed it to happen. So I think when we want to dream it and then we got to do it, I think that the idea right now is now all of us should just go and think about what we actually desire and dream about. What do we want to dream about? And this is about dreaming of something we would want. Yeah. Think about that and then think about it once. Think about it once and never come back to it. And let it blossom. Let it become something. I think this would be a beautiful way for anybody who's listening to this, to start thinking about aspects of their lives, be it when you dream about love or when you dream about a home or when you dream about family or dream about kids or you dream about weight loss, whatever you're dreaming about, let's dream it just that once and then let it happen. And then what we do towards the dream is that we do think that don't negate our dream, if that makes sense, is it?

Alex

Yeah. And it's--you know--go ahead.

Dan

No, I'm hoping this isn't sound confusing.

Alex

No, I was going to say it's actually made me think of something that came up the other day for me. I bought a Facebook memory of the very first podcast that I was a guest on.

Dan

Amazing.

Alex

And it reminded me of in probably July of last year. I said to my business coach, that I was really trying to build the business. And I was like, I would really like to be a guest on a podcast. And then a few months later, I was invited to be a guest on this podcast. And now it's been a year later, and I've been on, like, 25 podcast. I got asked to be on the podcast like once every couple of weeks, and it's amazing because it's like, I didn't really put any effort into it. I just set this dream and then I let it go. And now it's just a normal thing for me to be a guest on a podcast, you know?

Dan

Well, forget about being a guest. You are the podcast now.

Alex

And it's true. Now I have a podcast.

Dan

So I think from-- when we think about dreams, let's make our dreams attainable and bring them to a place of understanding that we can make this happen for ourselves in a way that is a little bit more, less. So if I had dreamt about London, and then I kept on thinking about it, and I kept on speaking about it and that kind of would delay it. That would also sabotage me. The same thing that happened with Italy. If I kept on thinking about it, kept on dreaming about it. And it sounds like I kept on being mindful of it on a daily thing. I kind of delay the factor of it coming to me as soon as possible. I think before we started our conversation today, me and Alex had a little conversation about something else. We're talking about you know, timelines. And when things don't happen in the timelines that we want and how the delays that we create ourselves change our timeline. It's not that we will never get it. We will get it. The other thing is the dreams that we have. Dreams are usually something that is so, you know, wishful thinking, something that we probably don't even think is attainable, you know, could be anything. Could be marriage, could be writing, could be being on TV, could be anything. If I you know, If I think about my other dreams that I had remember that I was writing at some point, but I was writing to make a movie about my family. And then I stopped. And then I started writing. And I was writing something that was very heart wrenching for me. But I wrote it, and it sounded so beautiful. And I was like, okay, maybe I'll turn into a book and I had all these ideas, and I had everything on my phone. Actually, I write them in notes. And then all of a sudden, one day, all my notes got deleted. And I sat there and I was like, oh, my God. All this inspiration, all my weekly that I write to people. I have these weekly forecast that I write. All of them are gone. What do I do? And then I panicked for 30 seconds, and I said, you know what? Maybe it's time for me to start thinking differently. And maybe these were meant for only this time period, for me to have these thoughts and these memories. And now my new thoughts and my new memories need to be different. In that state, what happened to me was like, okay, I wanted to do something that was again different. And then I said, okay, let me just find really interesting cards that I can put up on my Insta story and let me just call them "Dose of Dan". And this all happened within the last few months. And I just start to think, okay, I'll just give this "Dose of Dan" and let's see what happens. Yeah. And I think "Dose of Dan" is something that a lot of the people I speak on podcast or I do Insta story with will keep on saying "Dose of Dan". So I was like, okay, I'll just coin it, and I start using it. And that became now let's see where that takes me. Let's see what the other dreams are. But I don't think dreams are things that cannot happen. I do believe dreams are something that will happen for everybody, you will get to your dream. But again, look at the emotional side of the dream also. I know I spoke about two trips that I took London and Milan. But if I look at the emotional size, the Milan trip is about me and showing that I love myself. That I had love and that I'm good enough for love from myself, which is beautiful. And